The Dance of LOVE VS HATE?

Why does love have to hurt and why does hate have so much more positive sides to it than love… for what is love but nothing more than pain we let ourselves go through over and over again... love comes with fighting, heartbreaks, worry  and even leads to hate while hate stays hate and there's no pain or heartbreak cause you never allow there to be so tell me what do u think is better love or hate???

But I learned that love is the greatest thing on earth. Greatest feeling a human could ever experience and greatest gift you could give.  I learned that love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it... It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more. I learned that love is a glimpse of heaven.

FIRST BEACH ENCOUNTER FOR 2013

Me and my friends planned to go to the beach just to relax, a short get-away from the reality, to get some fresh air and of course to catch up with each other after a very long holiday break. Unfortunately only one of my friends made it but still we continued the plan maybe because we were hungry to to have our first beach experience for 2013 and of course we did not regret it. 

Sea Park Beach Resort

San Fernando La Union

Playing with the sunset was our favorite.

And of course this wont be complete without MORE pictures of us! =)

silently cursing PJ and Sarah for not coming

duck faces

Tara's Jump Shot. lol

Emo mode

Till our next beach encounter. END

MY OWN WEDDING

I just hosted a wedding reception a while ago and it took me maybe 4 hours to create the program. I think I did great a job for that thinking that it was my first time to host a wedding reception.

I did a lot of hosting already with different events and bigger events, but this one felt different, maybe because the word WEDDING was attached with what I was doing and maybe because you are witnessing how these two people are smiling because they are now officially husband and wife.

 The way they kiss was really adorable. The way they hold each other's hands was inspiring. The way they hug each other was really full of love. 

No woman would not dream to have a perfect wedding with the one they love. It's a fairy tale that they will create under their control. A magical moment that will complete their childhood dreams to be with their Prince Charming.

One day.... I'll surely have mine. My own wedding. My own love story. My own fairy tale. My own Prince Charming.

MY NEXT BOYFRIEND...

A friend fiercely asked me -- "How will it be with your next boyfriend?" for a moment there was silence. It seems like I don't have any idea on how will it be. For a moment it made me think of what it is really to be in a perfect relationship? On a second thought being in a perfect relationship will surely suck because facing the reality is really tough and it wont give you any perfect view specially in love.

Then I smiled... said to myself... "Am I hopeless romantic?" then I argued with myself screaming... "NO!!!! OF COURSE NOT!!!" Maybe, just maybe... the right one for me is just right there and maybe just maybe... my next boyfriend will have these qualities to answer the question "How will it be with my next boyfriend?" And lastly, maybe, just maybe... I badly need to print a picture of this "BAD BOY GUY" tuck it in my closet and use it as a constant reminder of what i really deserve.

MY MASTER LIST

MY NEXT BOYFRIEND...

1. …WILL NOT CHEAT ON ME.

2. ...will have a job.

3. ... will not smoke pots.

4. ...will talk when need arises versus putting it off later.

5. ...will watch NBA with me endlessly.

6. ...will not judge me for watching the TV that much.

7. ...will call and not text.

8. ...will be emotionally mature, available and evolved.

9. ...will know how to manage his money.

10. ...will not be vain.

11. ...will ask me how I’m doing and how my day was and actually care.

12. ...will be content sometimes to spend the whole day in bed watching movies and eating takeout.

13. ...will compliment me every now and then, especially when I’ve made an effort to look nice for a night out.

14. ...will not be an alcoholic.

15. …will have goals, dreams, and the drive to achieve them.

16. …will understand that ‘No’ means ‘No.’

17. …will tell the truth.

18. …will learn how to communicate like an adult.

19. …will actually enjoying spending time with me.

20. ...will be crazy about me as much as I will be about him.

21. ...will not give me restrictions in having and spending my time with my life and friends

22.  …will talk to me when something bothers him.

23. ...will continually surprise me.

24. …will have the ‘we’ team mentality.

25.  …will stay with me through joy and pain.

26. …will have a backbone in the relationship and not be afraid to tell me ‘no.’

27. …will have a great sense of humor, but know when to be serious.

28. …will be more passionate in random moments.

29. …will be able to laugh at himself.

30. …will have a regular sized temper than does not super-size itself randomly.

31.  …will give me space.

32.  …will know what a commitment is and follow up that knowledge with actions that support it.

33.  …will understand that relationships aren't all perfect, and that sometimes fighting can resolve difficult issues.

34. …will not be selfish with his love when things don’t go his way.

35. …will be smart but not snide.

36. ...will be extra romantic to make me smile and love him more.

37. ...will respect me, my family and my friends.

38. ...will go shopping with me.

39. ...will not hate me for spending so much time fixing my clothes, hair and make-up.

40. ...WILL LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY.

PAIN IS OUCHY ! --- BOW !

To even say ‘I love you’ can be frightening. But even if it’s painful and fearful to have an emotional interaction, still we keep going, we enter into a relationship.

In order to protect our emotional wounds, and because of our fear of being hurt, humans create something very sophisticated in the mind, a big denial system. In that denial system we become the perfect liars. We lie so perfectly that we lie to ourselves and we even believe our own lies. We don’t notice we are lying, and sometimes even when we know we are lying; we justify the lie and excuse the lie to protect ourselves from the pain of our wounds.

The denial system is like a wall of fog in front of our eyes that blinds us from seeing the truth. We wear a social mask because it’s too painful to see ourselves or to let others see us as we really are.

-------  BY ANGE FONCE

THE DENIAL SYSTEM THAT YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT HAS BEEN PRACTICED BY YOURS TRULY TO PROTECT HERSELF SINCE HER LAST RELATIONSHIP. I CALL IT *SELF-PRESERVATION !! 

*SELF-PRESERVATION IS SOME SORT OF AN ARMOR, A SHIELD TO PROTECT MYSELF FROM PAIN. BUT PAIN IS ESSENTIAL FOR PEOPLE TO KEEP GROWING AS MORTALS, IT KEEPS US STRONGER OR BETTER YET, WISER THAN EVER. 

 BUT I AM FULLY AWARE THAT I CAN NEVER RUN AWAY FROM IT, IT'S JUST TOO IMPOSSIBLE, UNLESS YOU'RE ALREADY DEAD. 

WHEN YOU'RE IN PAIN YOU HURT ! YOU WEEP !  YOU BLEED ! YOU HEAL ! (SOMETIMES HEALING TAKES A LONG TIME, OH YEAH !!!) AND FINALLY, YOU SCAR !

SCARS LAST FOREVER AND I BELIEVE THAT SCARS ARE PERFECT IMPERFECTIONS. i find it really sensual FOR IT SHOWS THE PERIOD OF HARDSHIPS THAT A PERSON HAD TO GO THROUGH, WHETHER IT BE PHYSICAL OR EMOTIONAL.

Like all living creatures, WE CAN HEAL FROM OUR PAINS and our SUFFERINGS. If we have a healthy environment, HEALTHY BEHAVIOURS, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, WE WILL RECOVER. THAT'S PART OF LIFE. IT'S JUST A CONTINUOUS CYCLE OF HAPPINESS, SADNESS, UPS, DOWNS, MADNESS, ET CETERA, ET CETERA. 

PEACE !

CK

  DON'T BE SAD....

BE GLAD !!!!!!!!

               

Its all part of the wonderful cycle of life ! So be sure to live it to the fullest and enjoy every bit of it !

the bad experiences can be learned from, it's probably the most important thing ! pain will toughen u up, it will definitely make you stronger !  pag nag kakalyo ka na, you'll learn how to shrug it off na =D